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IT’S TIME TO START THINKING ABOUT—

BAT & BAR MITZVAH

THE MIDWAY JEWISH CENTER GUIDE TO BAR AND BAT MITZVAH

Perry Raphael Rank Rabbi 
Danielle Bensimhon Cantor
Dina Barze’ev-Hochbaum Director of Education
Ellen Schlank Preschool Director
Carol To Office Administrator
Joel Podell President
Yitz Rubin & Myron Edelman Ritual Committee Co-chairs
Adrienne Rein Liaison
Ira Schechter Liaison
Office Phone (516) 938-8390
Office Fax  (516) 938-3906
E-Mail rafirank@mjc.org    or    dbensimhon@mjc.org
Revised January, 2009 / Shevat, 5769

TABLE OF CONTENTS

Introduction  
What Is Bar and Bat Mitzvah?  
How Much of the Service Our Children Will Know  
Why We Teach What We Teach  
The Rabbi's Role  
The Cantor & Tutors' Roles  
Timetable For The Bar & Bat Mitzvah Experience  
Helping Our Children Become Responsible Jews  
Educational and Religious Requirements  
The Directions / Decorum Card  
Bar and Bat Mitzvah Invitation Display Policy  
Honors  
Kiddush  
Se'uday Shel Mitzvah - A Meal Emanating From a Mitzvah  
Rules of the Synagogue  
Tzedakkah Opportunities  
Some Terms You Ought To Know  
An Aliyah: It's An Honor - But What Do I Do?  

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INTRODUCTION

Is it hard to believe that your child will soon become a Bar or Bat Mitzvah?  You might as well brace yourself now.  That little boy or girl that just yesterday was strapped into a car seat is today getting all set for adolescence. Our children begin to go through some dramatic changes, physically and emotionally, at twelve and thirteen years of age.  The rabbis were wise in choosing this age as the proper time for becoming Bar and Bat Mitzvah.

 

Midway Jewish Center wants this time in your life and in that of your child’s life to be one of growth, excitement, and positive learning.  In Jewish tradition, we commit ourselves to life-long learning.  All Jewish adults, even rabbis, cantors, and educators are obligated to study throughout their lives.  It only stands to reason that the occasion of a Bar and Bat Mitzvah will be a learning experience for the entire family.  Becoming a Bar and Bat Mitzvah is not so much what happens on a single special Shabbat.  It is really a process that began as early as your child’s brit or baby naming.

 

In the back of this booklet is a glossary.  Just about every Hebrew term used in this booklet is there defined.  You will find many other terms defined to help you understand Judaism even better.  Enjoy the reading and Mazal Tov!

 

WHAT IS BAR AND BAT MITZVAH?

Judaism is based on an idea that God communicates with people.  God communicates in many ways.  A principal source of that message for the Jewish people is the Torah.  Within the Torah, God tells us to behave in certain ways which, over the centuries, have shaped the Jewish way of life.  These rules are called mitzvot, a Hebrew term meaning “commands.”  They are commands not only because God should have a commanding voice in our lives, but because the rules themselves are compelling.  We are drawn to them precisely because they are designed to create a sense of the sacred within the world, a sanctity based on justice, compassion, and peace.  A single command is known as a mitzvah.  A Bar or Bat Mitzvah is one who is both aware and committed to following the commands known collectively as mitzvot.  A Bar or Bat Mitzvah is one who makes the commitment to live life in accordance with God’s will.

 

At thirteen years of age, a boy becomes a Bar Mitzvah.  At twelve years of age, a girl becomes a Bat Mitzvah.  The status is automatic; no ceremony is required.   The ceremony in place today is our way of saying that we will take nothing for granted.  We want our families and our young people to fully understand what a privilege it is to be able to follow God’s will and to live a full, rich, Jewish life.

 

HOW MUCH OF THE SERVICE OUR CHILDREN WILL KNOW

We want each child to develop fully, learning as much as he or she can, in accordance with his or her abilities.  We want to challenge them, not overwhelm them.  In addition, we want to utilize the Bar and Bat Mitzvah lesson time wisely, focusing the majority of the time on prayers that form the core of the service, rather than those parts of the service that are recited once-a-year.  As such, we begin our studies with the core prayers:

 

FOR A SHABBAT MORNING BAR/T MITZVAH

CORE PRAYERS

KIDDUSH Blessing over the wine and Shabbat sanctity
SHAHARIT A Major Portion of the Morning Service 
TORAH SERVICE Taking out and Returning the Torah to the ark 
BIRKHOT HATORAH  Torah Blessings

                

ADDITIONAL CHANTING

BIRKHOT HAFTARAH Haftarah Blessings
HAFTARAH A reading from The Prophets
MAFTIR The conclusion of the Torah reading

 

FOR A SHABBAT AFTERNOON (MINHAH / MA’ARIV) BAR/T MITZVAH

CORE PRAYERS

KIDDUSH Blessing over the wine and Shabbat sanctity
MINHAH A Major Portion of the Afternoon Service 
TORAH SERVICE Taking out and Returning the Torah to the ark
BIRKHOT HATORAH Torah Blessings
HAVDALAH The Four Principal Blessings of Havdalah

                         

ADDITIONAL CHANTING

MA’ARIV The Evening Service

 

Finally, each child will deliver a brief Devar Torah or sermon on the portion of the Torah read that day.

 

WHY WE TEACH WHAT WE TEACH

There is a reason why we have chosen to teach our young people the above parts of the service:

 

·        KIDDUSThe blessing over the wine is part of the home celebration of Shabbat.  It is a blessing recited in gratitude for rest, for the beauty of the universe, and for the freedom we enjoy.  Shabbat is not a phenomenon reserved for the synagogue.  It is sacred time that should fill our homes and our hearts.  We encourage you and your child to recite kiddush every Friday night, and thus turn that Friday into a Shabbat.  When our B’nei Mitzvah recite Kiddush at the synagogue on Friday, it also serves as a ground-breaker prior to their leading greater parts of the service before a crowd on Shabbat.

 

·        A PORTION OF SHAHARIT / MINHAH / MA’ARIV          Prayer is an integral part of Jewish life.  People who know how to pray know that there is a source of energy beyond them which can help them through moments of happiness, sorrow, trial, and pain.  We want our young people to be able to lead the congregation in prayer.  In learning these ancient prayers, they will be able to enter synagogues around the world, and always find a home and feel at home.

 

·        THE TORAH SERVICE           Of course, the Torah service constitutes the very heart of every Shabbat and festival service.  We take out and return the Torah to the ark with a bit of pomp and dignity as we pay homage to the central teaching of the Jewish people.

 

·       BIRKHOT HATORAH              There are two Torah blessings, one recited before and one recited after the Torah reading.  The first blessing speaks of the Jewish people as chosen, not because of genetic superiority, but because the Torah has directed us to follow God’s will.  The second blessing notes that by following Torah, we enter into the realm of eternity.  By following Torah we become one with people who lived before we were born and one with those who will live well after we have left this physical world.

 

·       BIRKHOT HAFTARAH (for Shabbat morning only)        The Haftarah blessings are filled with Jewish values and principles.  We learn about God’s dependability, the importance of hope, our eternal connection to the land of Israel, our prayer for joyous living, our hope that the world will soon be perfected by the will of God, and the fact that God continued to communicate to us through the prophets.  God’s love for the Jewish people specifically is eternal as God’s love for all people is forever.  These are important concepts for our young people to know and to integrate into their way of thinking about life.

 

·        HAFTARAH (for Shabbat morning only)   These words are taken from the second section of the Bible known as Nevi’im or Prophets.  The recitation of the Haftarah is closely associated with the Torah reading and is typically connected to each other thematically or linguistically.  Haftarot (the plural) may contain some marvelous narratives of our people’s history or present us with poetry both esoteric and mystifying.

 

·        MAFTIR                                      The Torah is the word of God.  Anyone who has peered into the Torah knows that it is without vowels or punctuation.  By learning how to chant from the Torah, a human becomes the voice of God and that’s why being called to the Torah is known as an honor.

 

THE RABBIS ROLE

Rabbi Rank meets with our Religious School children throughout the year.  During that time, he covers many topics and in particular, addresses the perplexing theological questions that young people may periodically ponder.  You should know that any time a particularly difficult question arises in your family, you are welcome to call Rabbi Rank, ask the CyberRav a cyber question, or certainly set up an appointment to talk to him face-to-face.  Carol To, our Office Administrator is in charge of scheduling appointments.  Just give her a ring and a convenient appointment will be set up for you.

 

THE CANTOR & TUTORS’ ROLES

We are very lucky to have a talented and expert educator for our cantor:  Cantor Danielle Bensimhon.  In addition to Cantor Bensimhon, our B’nei Mitzvah tutors, Janet Jeddah, Mark Elber, and Dahlia Sandberg will also be working with the kids.  Five to six months prior to the Bar or Bat Mitzvah, children will begin working with the tutors.  They work with them for three months after which they switch to Cantor Bensimhon with whom they work for the remaining two to three months.  Beginning in kitah vav (the sixth grade) and continuing through kitah zayin (the seventh grade), we devote 30 minutes weekly during Religious School hours to the kids learning portions of the service.  The cantor will also review each child’s Devar Torah to assure that it is thoughtful and coherent.

 

PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT

It probably sounds trite but keeping our kids practicing daily is essential to their success on the bimah.  Six months is a handful of months to adults but in the 12-13 year old psyche, it’s an eternity!  They always have “plenty of time” before the Bar or Bat Mitzvah, but big people know better—they don’t.  Parents have the right and the responsibility to remind their children that they have a job and it’s called homework.  The tutors and the Cantor will always assign homework at the end of each private sessions.  When kids show up for their lessons having completed their homework, they can move forward with new material.  If they come in unprepared, and it happens week after week, progress is obviously impeded.  The cramming and anxiety that sometimes happens in the two weeks prior to the simhah is no fun for anyone.  Steady progress is what we encourage and shoot for and parents play an indispensable role in making that happen.

TIMETABLE FOR THE  BAR AND BAT MITZVAH EXPERIENCE

 

·        In the Fall of kitah hey (fifth grade), we will assign Bar & Bat Mitzvah dates.

 

·        Beginning in kitah vav (the sixth grade) and continuing through kitah zayin (the seventh grade), we devote 30 minutes weekly during Religious School hours to teaching portions of the service. 

 

·        About two years before your simhah, the rabbi, cantor, principal, ritual chairpeople and administration will discuss Bar and Bat Mitzvah procedures and answer questions at an annual meeting devoted to that end.

 

·        Five to six months before the ceremony, the child begins private lessons.

 

·        To become familiar with the procedures of our service, we ask that you attend a minimum of three Shabbat morning services prior to the Bar and Bat Mitzvah—the more, the better. 

 

·        Boys must put on tefillin and tallit, which are to be purchased in advance.  As an egalitarian synagogue, we encourage girls to wear tallit as well.  Beautiful women’s talliyot are readily available on the Internet and at local Jewish book stores and gift shops.

 

·        At least three weeks before the simhah, the family meets with a Ritual Committee representative to discuss the distribution of honors.

 

·        Some time just prior to the simhah, the family meets with the Rabbi to review the ceremony in detail.

 

·        The family attends the Friday night service prior to the simhah, at which time the Bar and Bat Mitzvah recites the kiddush.

 

HELPING OUR CHILDREN BECOME RESPONSIBLE JEWS

You are your child’s primary Jewish role model.  How you express your Jewishness matters more than a dozen sermons or one hundred lesson plans.  There are many ways to help your child become a responsible Jew.  For example:

 

·        Light Shabbat candles together

·        Recite kiddush and hamotzi together

·        Come to Shabbat services, particularly morning services, together

·        Put on tallit and tefillin at the morning minyan together

·        Reminisce about your own childhood Jewish memories

·        Visit the graves of some loved ones

·        Watch a Jewish movie or see a Jewish play together (Exodus, Fiddler on the Roof, Schindler’s List, Keeping Up with the  Steins, etc.)

·        “Putting God on the Guest List: How to Reclaim the Spiritual Meaning of Your Child’s Bar or Bat Mitzvah,” by Rabbi Jeffrey K. Salkin

 

EDUCATIONAL AND RELIGIOUS REQUIREMENTS

·        Attendance at Solomon Schechter Day School, or in Midway Jewish Center's Religious School, or in some comparable educational alternative for a minimum of six years beginning in the second grade and continuing through the seventh grade.

 

·        Current enrollment in such a school and the family's up-to-date membership in Midway at the time of the Bar and Bat Mitzvah are mandatory.

 

·        Continued study in the Religious School through the Zayin grade graduation is part of the core curriculum which all families agree to in order to secure a prime time Bar/t Mitzvah slot at Midway.  Bar/t Mitzvah is a milestone, but not a graduation, and to use it as such undermines the philosophy of our Religious School, synagogue and Conservative Movement, all of which understand Jewish learning to be life-long learning.  Moreover, letting our children’s Religious school attendance lapse after Bar/t Mitzvah, in view of the core curriculum, is unethical and the message conveyed to our children detrimental to their identity as Jews and their future association with a Jewish community.

 

·        Regular attendance and passing grades in the Religious School.

 

·        Attendance at the family service and other services as required by the Ritual and Education committees.

 

·        Service requirements in grades bet (second) through hey (fifth) are seven family services at Midway and five other services at Midway or any other synagogue each year.

 

·        Students in grade vav (sixth) attend eight Shabbat morning services in the main sanctuary as part of our core curriculum.  For three of the eight services, parents must accompany their child.  In addition students attend five other services at Midway or any other synagogue as part of our core curriculum.

 

·        Zayin (seventh grade students attend five Shabbat morning services in the main sanctuary as part of our core curriculum.  For three of the five services, parents must accompany their child. 

 

·        Services on the Yamim Nora’im (High Holidays) do not count toward the satisfaction of service attendance requirements.

 

·        Bar and Bat Mitzvah training does not begin until all academic and service requirements are fulfilled.

 

·        The Ritual Committee reserves the right to postpone the ceremony of students who fail to meet any of our requirements.

 

THE DIRECTIONS / DECORUM CARD

The synagogue strongly encourages you to include our Directions/Decorum card as part of your invitation.  Whether you choose to redo it in order to match the invitations color scheme or send it as is, it is extremely important that your guests be made aware of synagouge protocol, particularly on Shabbat.  We have guests from many walks of life enter our sanctuary, and their ignorance of the rules can lead to some embarrassing moments.  Please contact the synagouge office to obtain these cards free of charge.  Besides diretions to the synagogue one side, the flip side on decorum reads as follows:

 

DECORUM AT MIDWAY JEWISH CENTER

1.                   Please keep your attire consistent with the dignity of a religious service. 

2.                   Men wear a kippah whenever in the synagogue.  We encourage women to wear head coverings during services and require it while on the bimah. 

3.                   All Jewish males of Bar Mitzvah age wear a tallit at morning services.

4.                   It is inappropriate to bring any gifts into the synagogue on Shabbat. 

5.                   There is no smoking, photography, videography, use of cell phones, or writing, within the synagogue or on the synagogue grounds over Shabbat.

6.                   Young guests of the Bar/Bat Mitzvah will be seated in the first three rows in front of the cantor’s lectern.

7.                   Be prepared to pray, study, sing, and celebrate.

 

BAR AND BAT MITZVAH INVITATION DISPLAY POLICY

Bar and Bat Mitzvah invitations or any announcement of an off-premise reception may not be on display in the synagogue.  Kippah baskets may be distinguished with the Bar or Bat Mitzvah child's name and/or some salutation to the congregation consistent with Halakhah (Jewish Law) and the spirit of the day.

 

HONORS

In addition to the aliyot granted to the Bar and Bat Mitzvah family, honors are offered to synagogue members on the occasion of a yahrzeit, aufruf, baby naming and for other special occasions as well.  As an egalitarian synagogue, honors are given to both men and women.  Only an individual or a married couple is called to the Torah for an aliyah.  Since an aliyah is an expression of the brit or covenant between God and the Jewish people, these honors are given only to Jews.

 

KIDDUSH

Following services, the Bar and Bat Mitzvah family invites the entire congregation to a kiddush.  Where a luncheon specifically for invited guests only follows the service, the family nevertheless provides a kiddush for the entire congregation.  Where a family may have an obligation elsewhere following services, it is nevertheless important to be at the Kiddush, if only for ten minutes, so that the Bar and Bat Mitzvah may be present to help recite the berakhah over the wine.  Specific arrangements for the kiddush may be made through the office. 

 

SE’UDAH SHEL MITZVAHA MEAL EMANATING FROM A MITZVAH

Sometimes, Jewish people who do not keep kosher during their everyday lives view a kosher Bar or Bat Mitzvah as hypocritical.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  As Conservative Jews, we believe in the ancient and holy dietary laws known as kashrut and should be particularly inclined to abide by them during sacred times in our lives, e.g., a baby naming, Bar or Bat Mitzvah, wedding, etc.  By planning a kosher affair, we strengthen our identity with our 3,000-year-old Jewish tradition and affirm that the lifecycle observance we are about to observe is something extraordinary and holy.

 

RULES OF THE SYNAGOGUE

 

  1. Some people think that when it comes to fashion, anything goes at shul.  Not true!  Jeans and sneakers, low-cut dresses, exposed mid-riffs, bare backs and shoulders are fashion failings for the smart synagogue-goer.  Tzeniut or modesty is a mitzvah.  Dignity in clothing is a must.

 

  1. All males must wear a kippah whenever in the synagogue, a reminder of our humility before God and an outward expression of our Jewish identity.

 

  1. For the same reason, all women, single and married, are strongly encouraged to wear a head covering during services—whether a kippah, hat, or doily—and are required to do so if called onto the bimah. 

 

  1. All Jewish males must wear a tallit at morning services.  All Jewish women of Bat Mitzvah age and above are encouraged to do the same, as members of the community equally responsible for the mitzvot and worthy of being wrapped in God’s embrace.

 

  1. It is inappropriate to bring gifts into the synagogue. 

 

  1. Cell phones should not be brought to the synagogue.  In case of an emergency, an usher will make phone service available.

 

  1. There is no photography, whether still or video, within the synagogue or on the synagogue grounds over Shabbat. It is suggested that photographs within the Sanctuary and building be taken during the week.  The synagogue office will be pleased to permit access to the Sanctuary to the family and photographers. 

 

  1. Services begin at 9:00 AM.  Ushers will seat latecomers at appropriate times during the service.

 

  1. There is no smoking within the synagogue or on the synagogue grounds over Shabbat.  In fact, Midway Jewish Center is a smoke-free facility seven days a week.

 

  1. All obligations to the synagogue which include dues, tuition, building fund, Bar and Bat Mitzvah fees and all indebtedness must be paid at least 60 days before the event.

 

  1. The tossing of kosher, wrapped, soft sweets at the Bar and Bat Mitzvah at the conclusion of the Torah reading is customary.  These "sweets" may be purchased through our synagogue’s Sisterhood.

 

  1. We expect the young guests of the Bar and Bat Mitzvah to remain within the sanctuary throughout the service.  A break for the restroom is fine, but wandering the halls or remaining outside the building is not permitted.

 

  1. Young guests of the Bar and Bat Mitzvah shall be seated in the first three rows in front of the cantor’s lectern.

TZEDAKAH OPPORTUNITIES

On the occasion of your child’s Bar or Bat Mitzvah, wouldn’t it be nice to honor him or her with a leaf on our Tree of Life.  It is always a treat to watch college students and young people beyond their college years return to Midway, seek out the tree, and find their special leaf.  Also, the dedication of a CyberShul is certainly appropriate.  The CyberShul has now exceeded a distribution of over 1400 names, and will soon break 1500!  Let the immediate world know that your family has a simhah!

 

SOME TERMS YOU OUGHT TO KNOW

(Please note that h is pronounced “ch” as in the term Hanukkah)

 

Aliyah                                    This Hebrew term means “going up,” and can either refer to making one’s permanent residence in Israel, as in the phrase, “Rachel decided to make “aliyah,” or it would also refer to an honor to the Torah, during which one typically must ascend or “go up” onto the bimah.

 

Aliyot                                     The plural of aliyah.

 

Aron Hakodesh                  The ark in which the Torah scrolls are kept.

 

Aufruf                                    An aliyah given to a bride and groom just prior to their wedding day.

 

Ba’al Keriah                         This is the Hebrew term for Torah Reader.  A woman who reads Torah would be referred to as the Ba’alat Keriah.

 

Ba’alei Keriah                      The plural of Ba’al Keriah.

 

Berakhah                              The Hebrew word for blessing.  It typically begins, Ba-rookh   a-tah   Adonai. . .”

 

Berakhot                               The plural of Berakhah.

 

Besamim                               The spices associated with the Havdalah ceremony, typically cloves and cinnamon stick, symbolizing the wonderful Shabbat aroma we wish to carry with us into the rest of the week.

 

Bimah                                    The pulpit on which the service is lead and sermons are given.

 

Birkat Hamazon                  Literally, “the blessing of the food,” but in reality, a number of blessings recited, and often sung, following a meal.

 

Committee on Jewish Law and Standards     This is a committee of the Rabbinical Assembly that consists of 25 voting rabbis and six non-voting members, who study contemporary problems of Jewish law and resolve these issues in accordance with the dictates of our Tradition and Halakhah, as understood by Conservative Judaism.  The committee represents a cross-section of the movement.  The Rabbinical Assembly chooses 15 rabbis, the Jewish Theological Seminary chooses five rabbis, the United Synagogue of Conservative Judaism chooses five rabbis, and it also chooses five non-voting members.  A member of the Cantor’s Assembly also sits on the committee as a non-voting member.

 

Derekh eretz                        Polite, courteous, respectful behavior.  This is one of the primary attributes of a Jewish person.

 

Eliyahu Hanavi                    Literally, “Elijah the Prophet,” who worked largely in the Northern Kingdom of Israel around 850 BCE.  Tradition assigns him the honor of bringing the people good news about the coming of the Mashiah.

 

Erev Shabbat                      Literally, “Sabbath eve,” which is generally a reference to anytime on Friday before sunset, particularly Friday afternoon.

 

Gabbai                                   A person knowledgeable in the Torah who follows the reading to assure perfection and stands next to the Ba’al Keriah.  It is also the person who calls people to the Torah for an aliyah.

 

Gabba’im                              The plural of Gabbai.

 

Gelilah                                   The honor of dressing the Torah.

 

Gut Shabbos                       Literally, “Good Sabbath,” a Yiddish greeting on Shabbat akin to “Good morning” or “Good evening.”

 

Hadlakat Neirot                   Literally, “candle lighting,” which takes place 18 minutes before sunset and marks, at least for the person lighting the candles, the beginning of Shabbat or Yom Tov.

 

Haftarah                                That special section from The Prophets chanted on a particular Shabbat or holiday following the Torah reading.

 

Hagbahah                             The honor of lifting the Torah.

 

Halakhah                              Literally, “the way,” and the term refers to Jewish law, the traditions and customs that invest our communities the world over with a common character.

 

Hallah                                    This is the name of the special, braided Shabbat bread that is so closely associated with the beginning of Shabbat.  For Shabbat dinner and lunch, there should be two, uncut hallot (that’s the plural), set on a hallah platter and covered with a hallah cover.

 

Hamotzi                                 This is the name of the prayer recited prior to cutting or breaking the hallah for distribution to all who have come for the Shabbat meal.  The term means “who draws out” and is a reference to our gratitude toward God for having “drawn out” this bread from the earth.

 

Havdalah                              Literally, “separation,” and the term is the name of the ceremony at the very end of Shabbat which officially brings Shabbat to a close.

 

Hebrew Birthday                The date of birth according to the Hebrew calendar.  It is a date that may precede or follow one’s secular birth date, and in rare instances, the two dates may even coincide.  Bar and Bat Mitzvah dates follow the Hebrew calendar.

 

Hiddur mitzvah                    Literally, “beautifying a mitzvah.”  One can fulfill the mitzvah of tallit through one of the nondescript talliyot typically available at the entrance to the synagogue sanctuary or one can purchase a tallit of many colors, rich textures, etc.  In the latter case, one has most certainly enhanced or beautified the mitzvah.

 

Humash                                The Torah or Five Books of Moses, as printed in a book, not a scroll.

 

Jewish Theological Seminary    This is the principal school of the Conservative movement, and responsible for the training or rabbis, cantors, Jewish educators, and academics for Conservative institutions and secular universities.  It is located in New York City.

 

Kabbalat Shabbat              Literally, “welcoming Shabbat.”  The term is the name of a welcoming ceremony for Shabbat as created by the sixteenth century Jewish mystics of Safed, Israel.

 

Kashrut                                 The system of Jewish dietary laws which permits certain animals and prohibits others, permits certain fish and prohibits others, and generally keeps dairy and meat meals, dishes, and utensils, separate and apart.  The system creates a sense of Jewish distinctiveness throughout the day, linking us with both our ancestors, our contemporaries, and our descendents who have, do, or will keep these laws.

 

Keriat Hatorah                     Literally, “reading the Torah.”  The term is the name of that section of any service during which the Torah is read or more specifically, chanted.

 

Kiddush                                Literally, “sanctification.”  The term is the name of a blessing, usually recited over wine, which points to the sanctity of a particular Shabbat or Yom Tov.  Both the Shabbat and Yom Tov Kiddush make reference to the Israelite Exodus from Egypt and the Shabbat Kiddush specifically points to the creation of the universe as a special them of the day.

 

Kippah                                   A head covering worn by men and women as a sign of humility before God and as an outward expression of Jewish identity.

 

Lel Shabbat                         Literally, “Shabbat evening.”  The term is a reference to that part of Friday which is Shabbat, as distinguished from Erev Shabbat.

 

Maftir                                     The person responsible for chanting the Haftarah.  It has also come to mean the final few words of a Torah reading, since the maftir is honored with that reading.

 

Ma’ariv                                  The evening service which is recited each evening.  Its essential element is the recitation of the Shema which must be recited every morning and evening.

 

Minhah                                  The afternoon service recited each day.

 

Minyan                                  The quorum of ten Jews of Bar or Bat Mitzvah age necessary to recite a full service.  Various synagogues differ as to whether women are counted in the minyan or not, but at Midway, the women count!

 

Minyanim                              The plural of minyan.

 

Mishnah                                A work of rabbinic law, thought, and argument that was compiled by the year 200 CE and represented the best of rabbinic thinking for a few hundred years.

 

Mitzvah                                  Literally, “a command.”  The term specifically refers to the commands that God delivers to the Jewish people.  It is often translated inaccurately as “good deed.”  The term “mitzvot” is the plural.

 

Mitzvot                                   The plural of mitzvah.

 

Musaf                                    Literally, “addition.”  The term refers to an extra service recited on Shabbat and Yom Tov.  A Jew is supposed to pray three times a day but on Shabbat and Yom Tov, four times a day.

 

Oneg Shabbat                     Literally, “Sabbath Delight.”  In our synagogue this term refers to the gathering of friends for coffee, tea, pastry, fruits, etc., following a Shabbat Ma’ariv service.  The term can actually refer to any pleasurable activity that takes place on Shabbat.

 

Parashat Hashavu’ah       Literally, “the portion of the week,” and the term refers to that portion of the Torah that is chanted in the synagogue on a particular Shabbat.

 

Petihah                                  The honor of opening the ark where the Torah scrolls rest.

 

Petihot                                   The plural of petihah.

 

Se’udah Shelishit               Literally, “the third meal.”  The term refers to a meal that takes place between Minhah and Ma’ariv on Saturday evening to fulfill the tradition that a person should eat well on Shabbat, at least three meals.

 

Se’udah Shel Mitzvah        A meal that emanates from a mitzvah as the meal that follows a wedding or Bar and Bat Mitzvah.

 

Shabbat                                Literally, “Sabbath.”  This term is a reference to the great institution that God gave to the Jewish people, and which the Jewish people in turn, gave to the world: a day of rest, learning, and spiritual rejuvenation.

 

Shabbat Shalom                 Literally, “Sabbath Peace!”  The term is the typical greeting used on Shabbat.

 

Shabbos/Shabbes             This is simply the Yiddish pronunciation of Shabbat.

 

Shomer Shabbat                Literally, “one who observes Shabbat.”  Generally this term is used to describe someone who observes Shabbat with tremendous concern for all the various laws of Shabbat.

 

Shulhan Arukh                   This work literally means “The Set Table,” and refers to that code of Jewish law written systematically according to topics by the Sephardic Rabbi Yosef Karo of Spain and Israel, (1488-1575).  Although it is a sixteenth century work, it is widely consulted, even today.

 

Siddur                                    This is the name of the prayer book used daily.  If the siddur is accidentally dropped, the tradition is to pick it up and kiss it as it contains God’s name and we therefore show the book great reverence.

 

Tallit                                       The prayer shawl worn during services, particularly morning services.

 

Talliyot/Tallitot                     The plural of tallit.

 

Talmud                                  A 20 volume set of Jewish law, lore and debates, the classic rabbinic interpretation of the Torah between the year one to 600 C.E.

 

Tanakh                                  This is the Hebrew term for Bible.  The term itself is an acronym for the three sections of the Jewish Bible;  the Torah, the Nevi’im or Prophets, and the Ketuvim or Scriptures.

 

Te’amim                                The musical symbols used to determine how to phrase and chant a Torah or Haftarah reading.  They are also known as tropes.

 

Tefillin                                    The black boxes containing sacred scrolls which are wrapped onto the arm and around the head each morning (except on Shabbat and Yom Tov) in order to express one’s love for God and the degree to which one feels “bound” by the mitzvot.  They are typically referred to as phylacteries.  

Teshuvah                             Literally, “turning.”  A term that refers to the practice of repentance which all Jewish people are encouraged to engage in daily.  It can also refer to the official written answer of a rabbi to a specific problem in Halakhah. 

 

Tikkun Olam                        Literally, “repair of the world.”  It refers to the mitzvah of doing our best to leave this world a better place than we found it.

 

Torah                                     This is a sacred scroll containing the five books of Moses.  Whenever the scroll is lifted, we rise in reverence for the word and spirit of God that the scroll contains.

 

Trope                                     A musical symbol used to determine how to phrase and chant a Torah or Haftarah reading.  They are also known as te’amim.

 

Tzedakah                              Literally, “righteousness.”  It refers to the daily mitzvah of giving money to those in need.  A traditional time to give tzedakah is Erev Shabbat or Friday afternoon, prior to hadlakat neirot.

 

Yahrzeit                                 The anniversary of the death of a loved one.  It is a date that follows the Hebrew calendar.  We light a candle on that day (beginning the evening before) and recite the Kaddish prayer at the synagogue services both in the evening and morning.

 

 

Zemirot                                  This term is a reference to the special Shabbat songs that are sung on Shabbat during or following a meal.

 

AN ALIYAH:  IT’S AN HONOR -- BUT WHAT DO I DO?

 

It is a great honor to be called to the Torah.  A Torah honor is known as an aliyah.  The aliyah is a way in which we are privileged to give voice to the most sacred words of our Tradition, the words of Torah which represent the words of God.  In ancient times, the one who received an aliyah also chanted the Torah.  Don't worry—someone else will be chanting the text in your behalf, but the honor is still yours.  This is what you do:

 

Before The Torah is Read

 

1.         Ascend the bimah (pulpit) and move to the right of the Torah Reader.

2.         Wrap the tallit (prayer shawl) corner around your pointer finger.

3.         Women not wearing a tallit do the same using the hagoret (Torah belt).

4.         Lightly touch the word that the Torah Reader is pointing to.

5.         Kiss the corner of the tallit or hagoret (Torah belt).

6.         Roll the Torah closed and as you hold both handles, recite the following:

 

 

You begin with:

Congregation responds:

 

You continue:

 

 

 

You begin with:

Barekhu et Adonai hamevorakh

Congregation responds: 

Barukh Adonai hamevorakh le’olam va’ed.

You continue:

Barukh Adonai hamevorakh le’olam va’ed.

Barukh atah Adonai, Eloheinu melekh ha’olam,

asher bahar banu mikol ha’amim

venatan lanu et Torahto,

Barukh atah Adonai, notein haTorah.

 

The blessing means:  Praise Adonai to whom praises are due!  Praises are due Adonai at all times.  Praised are You, Adonai our God who rules the universe, who has chosen us from all nations by giving us Torah.  Praised are You, Adonai, who gives the Torah.

 

After The Torah is Read

 

1.         Wrap the tallit (prayer shawl) corner around your pointer finger.

2.         Women not wearing a tallit do the same using the hagoret (Torah belt).

3.         Lightly touch the word that the Torah Reader is pointing to.

4.         Kiss the corner of the tallit or hagoret (Torah belt).

5.         Roll the Torah closed and as you hold both handles, recite the following:

 

Barukh atah Adonai, Eloheinu melekh ha’olam,

asher natan lanu Torat emet

vehayei olam nata betokheinu,

Barukh atah Adonai, notein haTorah.

 

This blessing means:  Praised are You, Adonai our God who rules the universe, who by giving us a Torah of truth has planted eternal life deep within us.  Praised are You, Adonai, who gives the Torah.

 

1.         Don't leave yet.

2.         Move away from the Torah Reader and remain on the bimah (pulpit).

3.         After the following aliyah, greet the rabbi, cantor, and synagogue representatives.

4.         You have fully completed your aliyah and may now return to your seat.

 

 

 

Following Your Aliyah

 

Having completed an aliyah, the customary greeting that others may offer to you is:

To a man:  Yishar Kohakha  -- 

To a woman:  Yishar Koheikh  -- 
More power to you!

 

And the response to the greeter would be:

To a man:  Barukh tihiyeh  -- 
To a woman:  Berukhah tehi  -- 

May you be blessed!